Pause for a moment… because this is not just any decision.
This isn’t only about who you’re dating or who makes you feel good today. It’s about who you can build a whole life with. And even though many take it lightly, deep down everyone asks the same question: “Is this the right person?”
We live in a time where love is confused with emotion, chemistry, and good moments. But that’s not always enough. Because some relationships start intensely… and end up leaving emptiness.
And there’s something else that has confused many people: thinking everything is solved with a label.
Some say: “If they’re Christian, go ahead.”
Others say: “If you love each other, that’s enough.”
But reality goes deeper than that.
The Bible doesn’t present love as something superficial. It presents it as a decision with direction. It’s not just about what you feel… but where your life is going.
Look at the case of Rahab.
She was a woman living in Jericho, and her life was not aligned with God. She didn’t grow up with the faith of Israel, she had no spiritual background. But when she heard what God had done, she believed. She helped the spies and risked her life because of that faith. She wasn’t perfect… but her heart moved toward God.
And something very important: after that step of faith, she became part of God’s people and married an Israelite. She was no longer the same person, no longer walking in the same direction, because now her faith was placed in the true God. And from that union, over time, came the lineage of Jesus Christ.
Now look at what happened with David and Bathsheba.
David was a king who knew God, but in a moment of weakness he made an impulsive decision: he got involved with Bathsheba, who was married. That relationship led to deception, wrong decisions, and painful consequences. Yes, there was repentance later and God restored… but the beginning was not right, and it left real wounds.
Two different stories, one same lesson:
God can transform any story…
but not every beginning is wise.
So the question is not only:
“Are they a good person?”
nor just:
“Do they say they believe in God?”
The real question is:
Where is their life going… and where are they leading yours?
Because there are people who don’t know God yet… but they are open.
And there are others who say they believe… but live far from Him.
It’s not the label that defines the future…
it’s the direction.
Here are some signs to keep in your heart… and make wise decisions:
First sign:
This person brings you closer to God… or pulls you away from Him.
Do they encourage you to grow?
Do they respect your faith?
Is there openness when talking about God… or constant discomfort?
The Bible warns:
“Do not be unequally yoked…” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
This is not a cold rule… it’s wise guidance to avoid painful paths.
Second sign:
There is peace… not constant confusion.
It doesn’t mean everything will be perfect. But there is an inner calm, a sense of clarity that doesn’t depend on the moment.
“God is not a God of confusion, but of peace…” (1 Corinthians 14:33)
If a relationship is full of anxiety, constant doubts, emotional insecurity… don’t ignore it.
Many times the problem is not the lack of signs…
but choosing to ignore them out of fear of losing the person.
Third sign:
They respect boundaries… they don’t push them.
And this needs to be said clearly…
If someone pressures you to have sex before marriage, they are not loving you correctly.
It’s not proof of love.
It’s not “part of the relationship.”
It’s not something you have to do to keep someone.
It’s a red flag.
True love doesn’t push you to fall…
it helps you stand firm.
“Love is patient… it does not seek its own…” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)
Fourth sign:
Their actions speak louder than their words.
“You will know them by their fruits…” (Matthew 7:16)
And this shows up in everyday life…
How they treat you when they’re happy… and when they’re upset.
How they speak to you… how they correct you… how they care for you.
How they treat you in the small things… reveals who they will be in the big things.
Fifth sign:
There is growth… not stagnation.
A healthy relationship is not just about having fun. It’s about moving forward. Building. Talking about purpose, values, and the future.
It’s not perfect… but it has direction.
And now something few people say, but it’s real:
Physical attraction does matter.
It’s not the most important thing… but it’s not irrelevant either.
God didn’t create love as only spiritual or emotional… He also created it physical.
The body is part of God’s design, and within marriage it has a good, healthy, and blessed purpose.
There should be attraction, connection, and genuine desire—but understood correctly: not as disordered passion, but as something that, in the right time, within marriage, becomes unity, commitment, and giving.
Physical attraction, when aligned with God, does not seek to consume… it seeks to honor.
It doesn’t rush… it knows how to wait.
It doesn’t dominate… it submits to God’s purpose.
But be careful…
Physical attraction adds…
but it should not dominate.
It cannot be the foundation…
but it should not be ignored either.
It’s part of the design… not the center of the purpose.
And here’s something many overlook…
Don’t fall in love with who that person could become…
learn to see who they are today.
Because many relationships don’t fail due to lack of love…
but because of unrealistic expectations.
And here’s a truth that may hurt, but it sets you free:
You can love someone…
and still not be the right person for each other.
Because love alone is not enough when the direction is different.
So this is not about closing your heart out of fear…
nor opening it without discernment.
It’s about choosing wisely.
Not seeking spiritual perfection…
but not ignoring spiritual direction either.
Not denying the physical…
but not being controlled by it.
God does not confuse… He guides.
“Seek first the kingdom of God…” (Matthew 6:33)
Don’t rush.
Don’t panic.
Don’t idealize.
God is not hiding the right person from you…
He is shaping you to recognize them.
Take this reflection to see more clearly.
Because in the end…
The right person doesn’t just feel right…
they also lead you in the right direction.
I invite you to join me in this prayer…
Lord, guide every decision of the heart.
Give clarity where there is doubt, peace where there is confusion, and wisdom to choose well.
Protect my life from relationships that pull me away from You…
and lead me toward a relationship that honors Your purpose in every area.
Teach me not to ignore the signs… and to value what is right above emotions.
In Jesus’ name, amen.
Somos Cristianos, connecting hearts with Christ.
